9. Be Gentle With Yourself

This one. Ugh.

It took me years to learn self-compassion and honestly, I still need to remind myself regularly to be kinder, more allowing, more heart-centred when I interact with myself.

I can be mean to me, and it doesn't help. 

We're often much harder on ourselves than we are on other people.

Think about how you speak to yourself, and what you expect from your own performance in life, at work, with friends, colleagues and loved ones. In contrast, imagine a friend or loved one in the same situation and compare how empathetic, supportive and understanding you would be and how easy it would be to suggest self-care and rest.

We never do that for ourselves, and it's critical. 

This is a hard thing to do - to live in the world as with a physical body and learn how we're doing well and how we're fucking up and how we can do it better. There's so much to pay attention to and so many ways to avoid... everything.

How many human beings have successfully lived whole lives in avoidance of dealing with any issue of healing or growth? Thousands? Millions? BILLIONS? Who knows. I think of how much time I've wasted avoiding my feelings and ignoring discomfort and I think,

"My god, you're such a stupid, useless fool..." 

Oh, see there. No. I say:

Be gentle with yourself. It's hard and slow and heavy here.

The path is long and there are no short cuts.  

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