4. Asking
We get what we ask for.
We have total free will and we can choose to ignore guidance.
It’s okay.
We have the free will to create any view of the world we want - right from heaven here and now to hell and everything in between. We have the freedom to see and live it, but anything that isn't love and inclusion is a mistake. It's choosing the wrong way to see things. It's okay.
Creator honours our free will and doesn't push or command or demand. Our will is sacred and Creator will have no one come to Them who does not come with complete consent.
So we have to ask - for EVERYTHING.
Assume the Universe gives us nothing that we don't ask for. Nothing. Not one little thing - so we must be the most annoying, needy little Children of Creator that we are. This is okay.
Beloved Presence is the unconditionally loving, infinitely patient, supportive parent we've always needed - and They are always right here with us whenever we need them. Our job is to ask and to learn how to communicate.
Story Time: My Great-Gramma
My friend Julie is a pretty good psychic. She's given me goose bumps more than a few times with her messages. I am still integrating an experience around asking that happened with her.
My great grandmother Agnes was a very forceful woman. A bit of a bitch really. (This is my experience with her. My cousins and aunts have very different perceptions of her.) I only met her once when I was little and she pulled my hair because I was "too precocious". She was mean.
Agnes barged her way into Julie's psychic DM's and hung around for a few weeks. She was very aggressive and a little unpleasant and annoyed me overly with empty platitudes. Saying "too big for her britches", and "don't judge until you walk a mile in their shoes", which gives side eye because she was the most superior, judgemental woman in our family.
What really made me question the situation was that Aggie was still doing exactly what she was doing when she was alive. Choring on the homestead.
Why? WHY?
The whole universe is open to you, wtf are you doing living out your physical life STILL? It's been almost 50 years - don't you want to do other stuff? (Lol - this thought becomes really funny in reference to my “future me edit”.)
Through Julie, I asked what she wanted or if she had anything to say and nothing resonated. She made dire warnings implied that I didn't really understand anything and insisted repeatedly that I was too arrogant for my own good.
I kept asking what she wanted and why she was still around. She was here for a reason and it wasn't to criticize or cast aspersions, though Agnes herself didn't seem to have a clue.
So finally, in exasperation I said, "I don't know what it's like on your side, but I suspect it isn't much different from here and if you want something you ASK for it and if you need something you ask, if you don't understand, you ask. You don't get anything and nothing changes and nothing moves if you don't ask for it, so whatever you want or need, JUST ASK." and 'poof', she was gone and Julie hasn't heard from her since.
Sometimes others have a lesson for us. Sometimes we’re a lesson for others.
Just because we've moved on from the physical plane doesn't mean we've suddenly become 'woke' and evolved and have all the answers. Apparently we can be as ignorant and stubborn in death as we were in life - but asking for help when we don't know is always the best choice for both here and beyond the veil.
Ask for help in every situation, for every little thing that we need. Ask out loud or in writing or internal prayer or visuals or whatever way we have communicated to the invisible world our whole lives - do that. Ask all of Creation for what you want and need.
Do it often and in every situation.
Ask for understanding, faith, belief, strength, patience, clarity, information, direction, answers....
Bring every secret, every pain, every grief or concern to Beloved Presence and await the peace and calm that comes with allowing Beloved Presence to handle the burden and guide us back to oneness. Keep no thought from Beloved Presence. Nothing we think is private anyway and what we try and hide is what we become.
We don't have to have "pure" thoughts, but give our discomfort and our judgements about our thoughts to Beloved Presence.
Allow ourselves to experience peace and calm and a sense of supported well-being.
This will take practice. It is okay.
Lately, I've just been asking for generic help - then what I need arrives.
I don't know anymore why I feel the way I do, nor do I understand why certain things upset me the way they do.
Knowing why doesn't always help.
Knowing why is often about assigning fault and judgement to people and situations outside myself - which is also ultimately unhelpful. I still like to know why, because it feels like knowing myself better, but I'm quicker to drop it and ask for help from Beloved Presence when I'm caught in a judgement loop.
I'm slowly giving up my decision-making process to Beloved Presence. When I - as small, limited, human me - decide for myself what's best for my life, we get results that are small and limited and often hit or miss. When I allow Beloved Presence to decide, I become aligned with universal purpose that creates benefits for the whole that go far beyond my small mind's ability to comprehend.
The results are better for everyone and are better for me than anything I could have planned for myself.
Yesterday I was walking in the woods with my nephew. He asked what I envisioned for the future of humanity. I gave him the broad strokes and shared what I'd love to see, but then I added a caveat.
"This is just what I can imagine, I know that all of us, guided by Creator, working together can create a social system and a world that's better than anything I can imagine on my own."
Let's ask for that.
The Practice
If checkmarks don’t work for you, don’t worry about it. Skip this part. Who cares? Not me. Not you.
Find something that does work for you - something that keeps you engaged in the process of inviting relationship with your Soul Self. Maybe the doing is enough.
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Ask for your Soul Self to come into your heart/mind. This ask is an invitation to join with your Spirit Self. This is an anointing. Do this however you want.
I first did this one night, in my early 20's, over Christmas break, as I was falling asleep. What happened was a huge rush of joy and gratitude and love for myself and for Creation. It's different for everyone and follow your way.
Maybe you want to dance while asking or you want to be out in nature, or swimming or in your bedroom or somewhere you feel safe and cozy. Where and how doesn't really really matter as long as you are genuine and heartfelt and welcoming. The invite must be authentic and heartfelt.
What happened? How did you feel?
What happened afterwards? Were there any conversations or people encounters or events that were fortuitous and "coincidental"? (Nothing is coincidence.)
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For one hour, ask Your Soul Self to make all your decisions for you, big and small.
What to wear? • Watch on TV? • Gaming? • Reading? • What to art? • What to eat? • Where to sit? • What read? • What do? • Goal-setting? • Planning?
Make the ask and then wait for direction.
Follow what you receive. Maybe it's a feeling or an intuition or you hear an inner monologue or you get a sense or a feeling or see an image or a flash of insight or a movie plays in your head.
I have no idea how you communicate with your Soul Self, but I know that you do and you've already done it and you know what it looks like and how it feels.
Follow it when it happens. This is practice for wholy guidance to steer our lives.
Do this for the first time at home during leisure time so you're not high-stressing yourself at work or out with friends trying to communicate with your higher self under pressure.
(Stressful times have been the best time for me to remember to ask for help because Beloved Presence is 100% a stress-reliever. Give up the hard jobs to the Guide that Never Fails.)Remind yourself often during the time period that your Soul Self is responding to you and a decision will come.
Remind yourself that you are getting a response. We always get a response. We need to practice how to hear and receive communication with Higher Self.
It’s not that we’re not getting a response. It’s that we don’t know yet how to recognize the response. It's instant and it's Mind to Mind, so it's actually our own undivided Mind/Heart we're trying to hear. We’ve got a lot of practice listening to the divided mind - this one takes practice. It's okay.
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For one hour ask BP questions about anything you want to know.
Sit quietly to dialogue or engage in repetitive activity like dishes/cleaning/weeding/walking/shoveling that allows your mind to be free to receive communication.
Sometimes keeping the body busy with something simple allows the brain to become open to frequencies it isn't accustomed to recognizing.
Monitor your Mind for the monkey brain and let it go. It's okay.
Remember that your ego will always speak first and always say something that either sucks outright or at least makes you feel a bit bad.
The divided mind is always talking in separation. Beloved Presence never does this. Even when harsh truth is being shared, your Soul Self never makes you feel bad about yourself. They have the uncanny ability of delivering all truth in a package filled with loving kindness.
Try not to have judgements about yourself during the process of establishing communication with your Soul Self. This is a rocky process and we all have chatty little monkey brains. It's okay.
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Expect to receive answers and assume the "imagined" responses are real and true.
We are so quick to dismiss answers as bullshit. The divided mind has no patience for hope and optimism.
Ask for your Soul Self for further guidance and clarity.
Use discernment to recognize the different feels between divided mind/ego answers and wholy/undivided mind answers.
They do feel very different and if you're ever feeling bad, you can be sure it's the divided mind that's speaking.